Working with my coach at the end of December, she tasked me with reviewing the decade and with looking forward five years. The usual self reflection that comes at the New Year, times ten.
There were many changes in my life, while some things are the same. I still love technology, community and helping people feel that spark of joy and excitement that comes from hope. My children are now fully grown up, I'm ready to turn 50, and I'm on the other side of the personal development river. You know the one I mean right? The one that, when you're crossing it, feels like you could drown at any moment. You can't go back, and you can't see the other shore so you just have to hang onto the life line and keep moving forward, trusting that everything will work out.
In 2010, I posted my first video tutorial on my Facebook business page. In fact, it is still there. It's horrible quality but I'm so proud of having done it, that no matter how many comments I get criticizing it, I'm not taking it down! Now, I'm comfortable doing videos and just want to get better at thinking of what to say when I get on screen!
I'm not totally sure where I want to see myself in 5 years but I can tell you that I know how I want to be feeling. I want to feel joyful, happy, at peace and have a sense of equanimity that comes from knowing that whatever life brings I can survive and thrive through it.
While I was contemplating this blog post, I went to my source of inspiration, Brené Brown. Of course she had the perfect words of wisdom in her blog post, Doubling Down on Love https://brenebrown.com/blog/2019/10/09/doubling-down-on-love/. In it, she talks about living from a love ethic. I didn't even know this was a thing! Seriously, how did I not know that there was even a name for living your life this way?
The time has come to create a new paradigm in the business world. When we say "that's just business", I want it to mean that we looked for the win-win scenario. That we chose courage over comfort the way Brené Brown is teaching us to do. That we embraced our vulnerability and chose to be real instead of armoring up.
Running your business from a love ethic, wholeheartedly, takes courage. It exposes you to hurt of all kinds. You have to learn that love isn't letting people get away with things, it isn't being nice, and it isn't taking care of someone to the point of harming yourself. I've had to learn, and am still learning, good boundaries and how to communicate them.
If we don't do it though, we miss out on happiness, true connection, and joy. I'm not going to tell you that it's worth it. That's not for me to tell you. I can tell you though, that if you choose to take the wholehearted path, I will be there beside you.
Now go change your world,