Every once in awhile I post something on Facebook that sparks a furious debate. I'm always a little surprised over what it is. This time is no exception. I thought, hey, I'm going to post that I've been harrassed in my life time. More than that actually, I'd be surprised if there were many women out there who haven't and I love raising awareness.
So on comes the debate of the concept of harassment towards men vs. harrassment towards women. What constitutes harrassment? I decided to go to Google to get some clarity on the matter.
Sexual harassment is bullying or coercion of a sexual nature, or the unwelcome or inappropriate promise of rewards in exchange for sexual favors (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_harassment)
So, still somewhat ambiguous in that there are words which need to have perception applied and can be argued. Was something appropriate? Welcome? How do you know? It's going to be different for everyone. That's why there is a simple way to determine these things.
That's right, hey, do you care if I slap you on the a**? No? Awesome, proceed. Yes? Please do not ask again or say, are you sure? I think you really mean no you don't mind. Or, I bet I can get you to change your mind...
There you go. Women and men, it is your job to know that you have absolutely no obligation to provide and form of entertainment to anyone else or access to your body in any way shape or form unless you absolutely want to. None. Zero. Zilch. Nada. You do not need to feel guilty about this. You do not need to worry about how much this person has spent on you, or how much time you've been with them. You don't need to care about whether they will still like you. Nothing. If there is even any hint that the person across from you is trying to get access to your body based on giving you something or the threat of taking something away, it's wrong and you should run, not walk away. Or maybe they are saying you're no fun, or a prude, or otherwise somehow criticizing you. In this instance, this instantly makes this person a MANIPULATOR. Again, run, don't walk away. The bottom line is, no matter which of the thousands of tactics someone can use to try to harrass or assault you, you will know because it will have gotten past the first no.
It may seem easy for me to say this but let me tell you I've been there, and I don't want anyone else to have to be there ever again. I wish someone had taught me these things and so now I'm teaching you so that hopefully you will learn that you are worth standing up for.
So stand strong everyone. I love you all and am fighting for you!